They made us believe that real love, the one that’s strong, only happens once, more likely before your 30s. They never told us that love is not something that you can put in motion, neither has time schedule.
They made us believe that each one of us is the half of an orange, and that life only makes sense when you find that other half. THEY DID NOT TELL US THAT WE WERE BORN AS WHOLE, and that no-one in our lives deserve to carry on his back such responsibility of completing what is missing on us: we grow through life by ourselves. If we have a good company it’s just more pleasant.
They made us believe in a formula “two in one”: two people sharing the same line of thinking, same ideas, and that it is what works. It’s never been told that it has another name: invalidation. Only two individuals with their own personality is how you can have a healthy relationship. It has been made to believe that marriage is an obliged institution and that fantasies out of hour should be repressed.
They made us believe that there’s one way formula to be happy, the same one to everybody, and the ones that escape from that are condemned to be delinquents. We have never been told that those formulas go wrong, they get people frustrated, they are alienating, and that we can try other alternatives.
Oh! Also they did not tell us that no one will tell us these things. Each and every one of us will have to learn by ourselves. And, when we get to the point that you are in love with yourself first, that’s when you can fall in love with somebody…